Detox is a bad mutha (shut yo' mouth)!

Are you really that heartbroken or are you just suffering from detox???

We often trick ourselves into believing that we're in love, but more times than not its just that we've gotten so used to being around someone. Unfortunately, when they leave, we literally feel sick.  A chemical imbalance occurs in our brains that makes this process extremely difficult.  Its so important to be selective about who we choose to be around and spend our time with.  Even if we didn't like the person in the beginning, we find yourself feeling empty when that person is gone.  Therefore, it really sucks when this happens behind someone we could have cared less about six months ago.

The tricky part is that you really will experience real symptoms of withdrawal.  Yes, the stomach pains, the heartache, the weight loss or weight gain...its all real.  The endorphins that are usually fired in your brain, when that person is around, are no longer being fired and... bingo, you're going thru detox.

Remember to take it one day at a time and even one hour at a time, in some cases.   The pain will get easier with each day that passes.  Most importantly, use your period of heartbreak to make a plan not to let anyone else take up your "good years" if they're not worthy or can't see you for the prize that you are.  Always depart with your pride before things get ignorant...it'll keep you from having to reach for the morphine.  

Moisturize your Situation

I once watched a documentary that traveled the globe in search of information on what attracted men to women.  Of the top 10 physical traits that they compiled, 3 still stand out in my mind, in no particular order:

1. Hip to waist ratio - a smaller waist and larger hips represented fertility
2. Eyes - the shape and spirit in the eyes possessed a certain j'nais se quoi for men
3. Hair - this went hand-in-hand with femininity in their minds

While each man is an individual and has his own likes and dislikes, it was overwhelming how many men ranked hair high on their list.  I then thought about how much we tend to neglect a trait that is so heralded around the world.  

Whether you wear your hair short or long, a little TLC and a great deep conditioner can have you at the top of your game.  I've found my true love in a product called Alter Ego Garlic Conditioning Treatment.  This deep conditioner is so nourishing and prevents my hair from shedding.  And just in case you were wondering...no, it doesn't smell like garlic.  I encourage you to find that product that brings your hair to stare worthy status. Fabulous, healthy hair will make you walk with a little extra pep in your step...that's really where the true power comes from... so what if it takes a Pantene conditioning mask to jump start it.  

When your "IT" ain't broke, don't fix it!

I was so disappointed to see that my girl crush, Scarlett Johanssen, cut into her IT factor. It shocked me to see her dowdy, brown hair on the red carpet for He's Just Not That Into You (cute movie!). Don't get me wrong...I'm all for doing what makes you happy, but too often people attack the thing that adds to their overall swagger. This is a no-no! Never dim your own light! There's nothing wrong with lighting up a room and demanding all eyes on you. It actually makes everyone else get on their "A" game.

Let's make them have to keep up in '09. Let you're light shine and accentuate all your "shut 'em down" characteristics.

Do you like me?

The most freeing thing about getting your Girly Swagg in order is not seeking the approval of others. That means, first and foremost, MEN!

Try something new in '09. Like guys that like you (or girls for that matter). I'm not saying that you have to take a defeatist approach to life. I'm simply stating that maybe you should read the signs and feel the chemistry. Energy never lies. Fall in love with yourself and radiate that positive energy out to others and see what happens. You'll be surprised at the results, and most importantly, you'll be surprised by how easy it becomes to see what your options are. Despite what numerous sad love songs have told us, it isn't hard work getting someone to like you. They either want you or they don't...and we divas don't spend our time convincing men to like us. We keep it moving! Trust me on this one, running up behind men that aren't thinking about you is so played. Remember, a man has walked on the moon, so please believe that he can also find your phone number and call you if he so chooses.

Repeat after me: I will NOT ask my girlfriends why they think he hasn't called me yet. I will take pity on him for not recognizing my uber swag and keep it moving to the millions of adoring men that are waiting for me. My time here is too precious.

WELCOME

Hello to all my divas with impeccable Girly Swag! Welcome to the Blog that discusses all things femme fabulous! On this site, I hope to shed some light on one of the biggest mysteries...men and relationships and also provide food for thought, as well as, tips and tricks for upgrading your own personal Girly Swag.

So without further ado, let's upgrade our swagger game to perfect 10 status!